What women want………….in persuit of my dreams


What is it that a woman wants covers quite a lot of territory. It may be said, that the wants of a woman are as many as there are sands on the beach.

These wants and desires are at times very varied, and a person could equate them to almost being fanatical. Is it maybe because, since we are ever-changing, and our needs and desires change right along with us.

Consider this, as a child, we want those things that are child-like, which covers everything from dolls to fast cars.
We imagine in our teens, what kind of career we might pursue.

Adult things like marriage might be never thought of, as we play with our dolls and tea sets.
Then there is a period in our lives that we want to live a life of glamour, Living the rich life. Going from country to country, visiting all those exotic places that we’ve seen in those fashion magazines.

Living the high life, it seems so right at this period in our life. Traveling in the biggest cruise ships, eating caviar in the most expensive restaurants, wearing fashions that are the envy of all people and living in houses we own all around the world.

These are things that we imagine during that fantasy period of our lives.
There are different wishes for every individual born into the different strata of society.

It appears that desires vary most, during the time of our ability to attain the things that are reachable.

We dream according to the standard of living that we are reared in.

It could be explained like this maybe: born rich or well-to-do, big dreams, having the realization that it is entirely possible to get anything that we dream of.

Born in poverty: this often times raises a question on whether our dreams will ever become a reality. Many would say that even if you are born rich or poor, the decision to succeed or fail is left up to the individual in most cases.

The thing most desired by most every person, no matter what color, origin, educational background is to be happy. It matters not if you’re rich, living in a mansion and having people cater to you’re every whim, if there is no happiness in your life, life still sucks.

On the other hand, if you had a house that resembled a shack and happiness resided there, you would feel like you had the world at your finger tips.
What makes their lives seem fuller or satisfies them is the question that needs to be asked here. Not everyone needs are the same as someone else.

It’s just like everyone having the same shoe but in reality, people have different size feet. So what works for one, doesn’t work for everybody.
There are as many answers as there are women, when the question is asked “What do you want out of life”. Children could fulfill the desire of some women.

Some just love the idea of bringing children into this world, caring for them, watching them grow, teaching them and seeing them grow up to be the very best they can be.

Some desire to live a long productive life. Maybe these women have set a lot of goals in their life and living a long time is the only way that can assure them of accomplishing all of their goals
they have set for themselves.
Not to feel suppressed, disrespected and to be heard is what women want as well. To feel that you’re here for a specific purpose only, gives a feeling of having no identity and worthlessness.

To feel what you do or say is nothing, causes an individual to be withdrawn, they cease to grow inwardly, and stymies their productive energy.
Whatever you desire in life, go after those things. Whatever it is that brings peace into your life and makes you happy, if it doesn’t encroach on anyone else, if it is legal, do it with all the strength that you have.

We are only on this big blue ball we call earth for a very short time and while we are breathing and have the energy, we need to go after whatever it is that is meaningful to us and pleases us.

Don’t just sit and wish in your golden years that you had done this or that, get out there, make a move and set the wheels in motion to satisfy yourself.

No one knows better than you what you need so never depend on anyone to tell you how you should live your life.

There are multiplied thousands of folks that have been cheated of a good life by listening to somebody else and doing what they said was right for them.
Going and getting what you want makes you no less of a lady. If it’s a husband that you want, the world is full of desirable gentlemen.

If it’s children that you want in your life, go for it. Want a career that spans a lifetime, don’t allow anyone to deter you.

Please never try to impress others, you are wonderfully made. Those gifts that were given to you at birth, will make room for you among the nations of the world.

Stop and think for a moment, would you desire to an exact copy of someone else, of course not.

Do what that little voice inside you says, and you’ll have all you desire and be all you can be.

Have fun!

How is your mental wellness?………….what is mental health?


Confused or can’t concentrate.

feeling depressed or down.

fears and worries.

mood swings of highs and lows.

withdrawal from people.

can’t sleep.



There are ways that the average person can find out how they measure up mentally.

This by no means implies that you can be as accurate as a professional that has studied the mind and is well versed in the capabilities or limits of the mind.

But checking how you deal with your daily routine, will help give some idea of the present state of your mind.
Check yourself to see how you manage stress in your life, whether it be at the home, at work, or in your social life.

If you are a parent, does it seem like the kids sometimes worry you more than you’re capable of dealing with and you just want to throw up your hand and yell.

What if, on the job, the aggravation and stress is much more than you are able to handle and you find yourself being argumentative or disrespectful to your co-workers at times.

Your social life seems to be fine, at times even great but there are times that sacrifices you make to be one of the girls, is just too much to handle.
In either of the examples, just because you experience some days that test your patients more than others, by no means that you’re slipping into a mental collapse.

We all go through those days when the kids are more rambunctious than they ever were.

Those days are bound to happen, kids are made that way, they are healthy and full of energy and feel great.

It is up to us to keep our wits about us and realize that this is a normal part of their growth and development and we’re going to have those special days.

We were not given a list of things to do, how to act or how to deal with stuff when we were born, so, we have to learn as we go, many times, just play it by ear.

Mental health includes our emotional, psychological, and social well-being. How you cope with life kind of sums it all up.
What does a person have to do to be mentally healthy. First of all, think highly of yourself, take pride in who you are, carry a positive attitude with you, never listen to naysayers, get rid of those gloomy and doom friendships.

Surround yourself with people that are like-minded and listen to you and not criticize you. Get a good physical work out weekly, this can eliminate a lot of stress in your life.

If you are religious, go to the church you are choosing, don’t dwell on unfruitful or unhealthy thoughts, set goals in your life and strive to reach them.

Learn how to deal with stress. What ever its origin.




Why the rise in my blood pressure?…………..the case-cause-cure


The medical specialists say that blood pressure is the push of blood being pushed against vessel walls. High blood pressure means that the push of blood against your vessel walls is higher than it should be.

The way blood pressure is measured is by what is called the systolic and diastolic method. Systolic is the pressure when your heart beats, diastolic is the pressure when your heart is resting between beats.

The systolic pressure would be the upper number when reading your pressure, the diastolic is the lower number. If reading the blood pressure the numbers would read something like this 110/73.
The blood pressure of a normal healthy adult should read below 120/80. If the reading exceeds this reading, you are said to have hypertension.

The reason that high blood pressure is call the “silent killer” is because it offers no signs or symptoms at all to warn the victim that it has invaded their body.

There are thousands in the population that haven’t a clue that their blood pressure is high, the reasons are, there are signs and they feel normal.

This however is dangerous because, if undetected high blood pressure can lead to heart attack, stroke, vision loss and kidney disease.


There are two categories in which the cause of high blood pressure or hypertension are divided into.

One cause of high blood pressure is: Essential high blood pressure-this means that there has been no diagnosed cause for it being high. The next category is: Secondary high blood pressure-this means that there an underlying factor for the blood pressure being elevated.

There other reasons for a person to experience high blood pressure, age plays a role in a person getting hypertension or high blood pressure. The older you get, the more likelihood of you getting it.

Family history plays a major role in a person having hypertension. It appears that if your family members have had it, you may carry it in your genetic make-up as well.

It also appears that temperature has an effect on blood pressure too. When the weather outside is cool or warm, the blood pressure of an individual rises or falls accordingly.

Ethnicity plays a role also in how a person might be a candidate for getting high blood pressure or hypertension. Are you of African or Asian origin, the likelihood of you getting hypertension increases.

Are you overweight or obese, your chances of developing high blood pressure rises.

Smoking or using tobacco products contributes to an individuals chances of having hypertension.

Women however, fare better than men when it comes to getting hypertension.

An habitual drinker can increase his/her chances of  getting this life threatening disease greatly.


Limit your salt intake. Salt is bad for an individual because it raises the sodium level in your blood and reduces the ability of your kidneys to remove water from your body, resulting in the body retaining water, putting extra pressure on the blood vessel supplying the kidneys.

The more strain on the heart, kidneys and brain leads to heart attack, dementia, strokes and kidney failure.

Certain drinks are good when dealing with hypertension. For instance, coconut water, milk, apple cider vinegar drink, pomegranate juice, water, cranberry juice, red wine, beet juice, these are known to aid in lowering high blood pressure.


As much as we just love eating pizza, it can be very harmful to us if we are trying to lower our blood pressure. Pizza, fresh or frozen have very large amounts of salt.

The toppings, tomato sauce, cheese, meats and even the dough are notorious sodium agents.

Watch out for those popular energy drinks, they are chocked full of caffeine and sugar, which can send your blood pressure exceeding high.

Watch out for frozen seafood which have been prepared with salt and other ingredients which raise your pressure. Canned foods can be high in sodium, read the label before eating these products.

Steaks or any food that is laden with fat is unhealthy, use common sense when indulging these foods


Whole grain foods like brown rice, carrots, sweet potatoes, green leafy vegetables, apples, pears, peaches, mangoes, bananas, poultry(no skin), fish, skim milk, low-fat cheese, almonds, kidney beans, and nuts are too.


Improve your physical activity, working out moderately, will strengthen your heart and the whole of your body. Do exercise in moderation, don’t do anything that would destroy what you’re trying to build.

Consult your doctor before indulging in any regimen that you have doubts about………don’t blow it. Getting rid of a few pounds is always great for the body as a whole, get the pounds off safely.

Check your blood pressure daily, stay on top of it and lead a pretty normal life and enjoy the gifts that we have been blessed with.











A resurgence of once nearly erradicated diseases!



The resurgence of diseases once thought to be nearly eradicated is showing up again. This rising problem is of a major concern to both our health officials here in the United States, but also in countries around the world.

Diseases like whooping cough, scarlet fever and tuberculosis have risen sharply in the last few years.



This plague, called the Black Death, killed over half of Europe s population in the middle ages, still has not been totally eradicated.

It has been said that as many as seventy-five million people lost their lives during the middle ages due to this disease. There are still areas of the world where people still experience this horrible disease.

This disease does not discriminate, taking and destroying men, women and children its wake.
Painful, swollen lymph nodes are a common occurrence with this deadly disease. After a few days to a week, headache, shaking, chills, vomiting, diarrhea and fever occur.

This killer can also infect the blood of its victim and the blood. It is said to have arrived in Europe around 1347, ships that were trading with different parts of the world during that period, were said to be the carriers of the “Black Death”.


Usually, you get the plague from the bite of an
infected flea or rodent. In rare cases, from a piece of
contaminated clothing or other material used by a person with plague, enter the
body through an opening in the skin.

The plague is rarely spread from person to person. Even in our modern times, sadly, this Black Death rears its ugly head in impoverished countries, where rodents are over running the inhabitants and infected people are not receiving the proper medical attention in time to save their lives.

But it is clearly a disease that cannot be spread about by human contact. Whenever a person is suspected of having the disease, there are antibiotics that can be very effective when the disease is caught in time.



Whooping cough is an infection that gets into your nose and throat. Some symptoms are coughing, sneezing, runny nose and fever. Most of the people that have this disease may have coughing spells, but everyone doesn’t have these.

Whooping cough can be extremely dangerous in younger children because during the coughing spells that occur with the disease, the child could actually stop breathing.



If doctors diagnose whooping cough early on, medications
can help cut down coughing and other symptoms. They can also help
prevent the infection from spreading to others.

The problem is that sometimes, diagnosis is made too late for the medicine to work at all. Don’t use over-the-counter cough medicine, they have little or no effect at all.

These bacteria are highly contagious, as it can be transmitted through the air, or contact with sputum of a person that has it.

Most effected are persons are those that have a weakened immune system, children whose immune system is not yet capable of handling this disease account for more than half of those infected.

Usually, the symptoms of this disease tend to appear between five and 10 days after infection. It is common, in the early stages, to
experience flu-like or cold-like symptoms. This includes a sore throat
and a fever. However, what actually characterizes whooping cough is that the
cough persists even when other symptoms disappear. Sometimes, the
cough is so persistent that people do not have time to properly breathe.



Whooping cough can be lethal. This is why you need to know what whooping cough is and how can
you prevent it. Early detection is vital so that
complications can be avoided. Complications directly associated with whooping cough are:
– Pneumonia if the bacteria gets to the lungs

– Bleeding in the eye due to tension caused by the cough

– Seizures due to lack of oxygen to the brain

– Death

Scarlet Fever


The signs and symptoms include a sore throat, moderate to high fever, headaches, swollen lymph nodes and a rash.

Kid ages 5 and up may be at risk of getting this very dangerous disease, which is related to strep throat. The disease gets its name from the bright red rash that develops on the victim which is its trademark. If left untreated it causes harm to the heart, kidneys and other parts of the body.

The redness in the face and tongue usually lasts about a week or so.
after then the skin that was affected by the rash usually peels away. A very sore throat, nausea and vomiting.
If you should see these signs accompanied by a fever, seek medical attention immediately.
Help your child as they deal with the effects of this disease by giving them acetaminophen or ibuprofen to help lower the fever.
Give your child plenty of fluid to avoid dehydration and allow them to gargle with warm salt water, or a lozenge to ease the pain in their throat.
By all means, make sure that whatever medications are given to the child or adult are taken as prescribed.TUBERCULOSIS (TB)

Tuberculosis is a very contagious and dangerous disease that affects the lungs.

Even though most people associate it with the lung being effected, the brain and spine can also be at risk of being infected by this known killer.
Even though multiplied thousands succumbed to this dreaded disease, today’s technology has given us miraculous breakthroughs, that have all but eliminated this horrid disease.DIAGNOSIS AND TREATMENT

The most common way to diagnose tuberculosis is the skin test.

You are usually given an injection of a substance just below the skin. A doctor of technician will check the injection site to see if a hard bumphas developed within 48 to 72 hours. The size of the bump determines whether the test results are significant.
The skin test aren’t perfect, however, there are other tests that can be given to further substantiate if the patient has TB or not.There several drugs that can be given to fight this menace and several of them are: Isoniazid, and Pyrazinamide.

Be aware that there are a few more diseases that have not been addressed here.

The advice that I feel that would be appropriate is to be very observant of your children and yourself of any swelling of the lymph nodes, suspicious looking rashes, High temperatures, sore throat and other signs of something that doesn’t look normal.
Maintain good hygiene, control potential carriers of disease and make yourself educated of the signs that accompany these dreaded diseases. 
























































































Guess what I found out?………….everything old is new again!



I used to hear my Dad say he’d never get rid of his old clothes because, as soon as he did, they’d be back in style again.

A truer statement was never made, it became apparent to me after I got older than the same could be applied to a lot of things in life.

I remember as we were growing up, we always had a vegetable garden. The food could not get any fresher than the ones harvested straight from the garden.

And because, we never used any chemicals on our plants, they were in a sense safer to eat and enjoy. Imagine what organic foods costs in today s marketplace.
Organic foods costs us more at the supermarket because, they don’t have the growth hormones that most farmers use today.

They take longer to grow, there is more labor involved, the fertilizers that is used by conventional farmers are never used on these foods.

It has been proven that organically grown produce taste better, has a longer shelf life than the conventionally grown product.

Some may makes the argument that organically grown product don’t taste any different from the average product but if nothing else the pesticides that it take to grow non organic foods are not present.

There are also no fungicides, insecticides, Herbicides, bio-engineered genes, no petroleum based fertilizer, no sewage sludge-based fertilizers or preservatives used in processing these foods.



Organically grown foods have and abundance of nutrients, such as antioxidants.

People with food allergies find that the allergies often just disappear, compared to the foods grown with chemicals and preservatives.

Organic farming practices are safer for the environment as they are safer for wildlife. The use of pesticides that are used to get rid of bugs in conventional farming are not used and don’t kill the birds, geese and other fowl.

Fish in our lakes, rivers and streams are also unharmed unlike conventional practices.
Because of pesticides, people are at higher risk of certain cancer, such as prostate and breast cancer.

It is a sad reality but unborn babies are at more risk than the rest of us, because of their undeveloped bodies, immune system damage, motor functions are possible.

The horrible reality is that weeds and pests have morphed into super bugs or weeds and it is beginning to take stronger and stronger chemicals to control them.

As I was taking to a farmer one day, the discussion of pest control came up. The pest that bores the holes in cotton before it matures, called a boll weevil, was actually immersed into a cupful of the poison that was supposed to destroy and it just crawled out of the chemical and went on its way!
Needless to say feeling that I got was that of hopelessness because if the chemical that was designed to kill it, had no effect on it, what were the farmers suppose to do next?

The harsher the chemicals used to control the pests and insects, the more damage that is being done to our planet. It has been estimated that about two-thirds of the United States underground water has already been contaminated by the use of these powerful poisons.


Here is a list of some of the most pesticide ridden foods that we consume regularly.

Kale, collard greens, yellow squash, tomatoes, sweet bell peppers, celery, cayenne pepper, cucumbers, and potatoes. Some the fruit on the list include grapes, peaches, and strawberries.

These are some of least contaminated food and are not of great risk to the consumer. Asparagus, sweet corn, cabbage mushrooms, egg plant, mango, avocado, onions, sweet potatoes, cantaloupe, grape fruit and several others. It is in your budget grass beef is best and organic dairy products.


To help you eat healthy all year, here are a few tips to help you in your endeavor.

Buy fruits and vegetable at their peak, either freeze or if know how, start canning them using mason jars, just like the ones Grandma used to preserve vegetables and fruits back in her day.

Canning foods is an art and will take some practice to be really good at it. But with determination and the will to serve good nutritious foods to your family it can be done.

Of course freezing foods will be the choice of many, it is easier because it is not as labor intensive as canning. Freezing your organic meats will also be an option you can employ.

Catch the pork or beef on sale and put it in the freezer until needed. Buying in bulk can save a lot of money, so shop around and get the best deals out there.

Eating healthy won’t cost you a lot, common sense is the key when shopping for organic foods.

Just like my Dad said, just when you thought everything was out of style, it pops back up again!

You can eat safely and healthy even though you don’t have a vegetable garden at home like we used to have. Visit your farmers market or other outlets and eat the best and safest meals on earth!